‘"When you are in the middle of a story it isn't a story at all, but only a confusion; a dark roaring, a blindness, a wreckage of shattered glass and splintered wood; like a house in a whirlwind, or else a boat crushed by the icebergs or swept over the rapids, and all aboard powerless to stop it. It's only afterwards that it becomes anything like a story at all. When you are telling it, to yourself or to someone else." M Atwood (1996)
Your story: it matters.
...it isn't over yet;
Hi, I'm Amrit. I am a qualified and accredited Specialist Counsellor/Psychotherapist with a Masters degree in Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling attained in 2010. I completed a post-graduate certificate in Trauma at the Tavistock and Portman NHS Foundation Trust.
My clinical work is currently within the NHS (The Havens, a sexual assault referral centre based within King's College Hospital) and formerly within the prison service, detention centres and various mental health charities including the Terrence Higgins Trust and Women and Girls Network .
In addition to individual therapy, I provide clinical supervision to trainees and honorary counsellors and facilitate interpersonal and reflective groups for women both within the NHS and at Solace Women's Aid North London Rape Crisis .
I have a deep vested passion and experience in working with trauma in the aftermath of rape and violence. I work with both women and men who have been raped or sexually assaulted. In 2018, I participated in a live TV interview on an Asian channel where I talked a lot about trauma following sexual assault and rape and if you would like to have a look, here is the link: Mental Health Matters .
What I have come to understand is that when someone experiences violence, their very sense of being is severed from the rest of life, fragmented, disconnected, amputated from the body of humanity. My job is to help you, slowly, to understand what is going on, to then try and pick up these broken pieces and see which ones you would like to hold on to and which ones to let go off. We will look at the loneliness and isolation; the shame and self-loathing that often arise; seeking ultimately to find meaning in what can be quite a confusing and chaotic world.
Susan J. Brison in her powerful book Aftermath (Violence and the Remaking of a Self) describes this process succinctly...
"the tension between living to tell and telling to live, that is, between getting (and keeping) the story right in order to bear witness and being able to rewrite the story in ways that enable the survivor to go on with her (or his) life."
I am trained in Existential Psychotherapy but the longer I do this work the more I realise that method and training is not as important as the bond and relationship between us. If you can trust me, we are halfway there. And this is what helps.
My current fees are £50 for a 50-minute session. I have a 24 hour cancellation policy; which works both ways i.e. if you cancel in less than 24 hours you will be charged for the session and if I need to cancel (due to an emergency) I will offer you a replacement session. I am registered with Aviva.
I work hard to challenge the myths surrounding violence and the language often used when speaking of a such experiences as language is a powerful thing - it can further embed myths or it can make people see the truth and see it for exactly what it is -- not hide it or worse yet pretend it isn't when it is.I will be here for you. I will stay. I will listen and support you. And I can and want to help.
Questions before we start
Please just ask. No question is irrelevant.